Discussion Policy

Guiding Principles

Feminist Space

We welcome non-feminists, those new to feminism, or people who want to learn about feminism to participate in discussion. We welcome smart, lively discussion and debate, but this space is also all about supporting each other and creating a feminist-friendly community.

Anti-Oppression and Inclusivity

While this is a feminist blog, and we are against sexism, we are also firmly against all other forms of oppression, including but not limited to: racism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, heterosexism, and the like. We want this to be an inclusive, welcoming space for all marginalized groups.


Intersectionality “holds that the classical models of oppression within society, such as those based on race/ethnicity, gender, religion, nationality, sexual orientation, class, species or disability do not act independently of one another: instead, these forms of oppression interrelate creating a system of oppression that reflects the ‘intersection’ of multiple forms of discrimination.” For example, a lesbian able-bodied black woman will face a different set of challenges as she negotiates her daily life than a trans gendered disabled white man. We strive to understand the ways in different types of oppression interrelate.

Feminism 101 and Anti-Oppression 101

Many of us have different levels of education about feminist concepts. We won’t expect everyone to have advanced feminist or anti-oppression knowledge, and we know that not everyone will be in the same place with regard to feminism and anti-oppression theory. Because of this, we cannot guarantee that this will be a safe space for all visitors. We will do our utmost to ensure this space is woman-friendly and free of harassment and discrimination of marginalized groups. We encourage the community to call out discriminatory or oppressive behavior, whether it comes from a fellow commenter or a contributor.

If you’re unsure about terminology, you may politely ask for an explanation. Please keep in mind that members of marginalized groups have to explain these ideas time and time again. Contributors will explain concepts at their own discretion. You can disagree and state your opinion (politely), but be willing to engage with terminology and concepts with an open mind. We welcome commenters helping the less¬†knowledgeable¬†with 101-level information sharing.

Our Helpful Resources page has links to a ton of resources you can read for more introductory information about feminism and anti-oppression concepts.


Understanding privilege is fundamental to anti-oppression movements (like feminism, anti-racism, anti-homophobia, fat activism, disability activism, and the like). We all must acknowledge that we are privileged in some way, and understand that:

Privilege is not: About you. Privilege is not your fault. Privilege is not anything you’ve done, or thought, or said. It may have allowed you to do, or think, or say things, but it’s not those things, and it’s not because of those things. Privilege is not about taking advantage, or cheating, although privilege may make this easier. Privilege is not negated. I can’t balance my white privilege against my female disadvantage and come out neutral. Privilege is not something you can be exempt from by having had a difficult life. Privilege is not inherently bad. It really isn’t.

Privilege is: About how society accommodates you. It’s about advantages you have that you think are normal. It’s about you being normal, and others being the deviation from normal. It’s about fate dealing from the bottom of the deck on your behalf.

— Betty, “A Primer on Privilege”

If someone calls you out on your privilege, please do not get defensive or go apeshit. Everyone makes mistakes. It is not about you. You are not a bad person for having privilege. Just. Stop. Breathe. Check yourself. Raise your awareness. Learn humility. Learn respect. Apologize. Unpack and own your own privilege.

Discussion Policy

Moderated Comments

Comments on this blog are moderated to keep this space feminist-friendly and inclusive. Your first comment will be held in a moderation queue. After it is approved, you will be able to comment without moderation. If you become disruptive, your comments will go back to being moderated.

Comment Time Limits

Discussion will conclude on posts older than one month, at which point people will no longer be able to leave a comment.

Anonymous Comments

Please use your name or a pseudonym. We want to build a community, and we can only do that if folks are interested in establishing and taking care of their reputation. So please use the same name and email address when you comment.

Polite Disagreement

Spirited discussion and diverse perspectives are absolutely welcome on this blog, but please treat everyone with respect. It will go along way in getting people to listen to you. If you are a jerk, no one is obligated to listen to you. No, you don’t actually have First Amendment rights to Free Speech here.

We absolutely welcome non-feminists to come here and join the discussion, but please be respectful of the fact that this is a feminist space and behave accordingly. This is our house, and so please abide by our rules. If you are here to hurl abuse at feminists, your comments will be moderated at the editors’ discretion.

Bigoted Slurs and Language

We do not allow any bigoted slurs against members of marginalized groups. This includes calling women “bitches”, “sluts” or “whores”, calling anyone or anything “retarded” or things “lame”, using “gay” or “fag” in the derogatory sense, using racial epithets, and the like.

Threats of Violence

Do not threaten any blog contributor or commenter with violence.

Personal Attacks

No ad hominem attacks against contributors or commenters.

Derailing Tactics

Stay on-topic. Don’t hijack the thread or otherwise disrupt the discussion. For example if a post is discussing an oppressed group, do not derail the thread by complaining about the perceived oppressions that a privileged group has. For example, “Men/heterosexuals/whites/cis gendered/able-bodied/[insert privileged group] have it bad, too!” or “That’s reverse sexism!” These are classic derailing tactics that privileged groups use when they get defensive, shifting the discussion away from the topic at hand.

Oppression Olympics

In general, arguing over which marginalized group has it worse is not productive. Oppression Olympics often ignores the reality of intersectionality. Playing Oppression Olympics usually ends in fail, so don’t go there.

Trolling / Troll Baiting

No trolling or feeding trolls.

Trigger Warnings

If you link to or discuss anything in your comment that involves sexual assault or violence towards women and other marginalized groups, which may distress or cause readers to be triggered, please place a trigger warning with the link or your comment.

Victim Blaming

Victim-blaming, slut-shaming, or any other kind of language that blames women or other marginalized groups for abuse, violence, and discrimination visited upon them is not allowed.

Editors Have Final Say

We’ll do our best to keep this a fun, welcoming space, keeping discussions on-topic and free of abuse. Moderation will take place at the editors’ discretion. Please contact us if there are any issues. We’re here to help!